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Tuesday, 4 October 2016

TO YOU YOUNG PEOPLE, TAKE BACK YOUR COUNTRY!

‘It is time for young bloods to be injected into the system...’ crept into my mind again. These days its become a constant fixture.


Photo credit: Kamal Hafkas Kassim


I am currently watching the Nigerian Television Authority(NTA) Network News and I'm wondering why we still have Oga Cyril Stober still reading the news after the much popularized retirement (and let me state that I do not have a grudge with him ). However it baffles me to even consider the question: Does it mean that NTA can not find younger broadcasters who can do the job well?...

...so someone just told me he is now on contract since 'they just could not let him go' and it gets me started:

Why do we have the syndrome of older generations holding tight to power? Whether in politics, business, leadership, even in the media in Nigeria; In Africa?
I am not saying we should do away with brains and experts. No! I am saying that they have a place in mentorship and programming. The old should give way for the new. The aged should allow the youths to take their rightful place and not hold tenaciously to places they have long outgrown.

Honestly I am tired of seeing this cycle driven by greed and unnecessary thirst for power playing out over and over again. It is the same reason we have (with all due respect) a 74 year old man as our president ruining the economy and watching old politicians who came into power over 30, 40 decades ago still parading themselves on national television as our leaders and edging out youths. It is the same reason we are talking about the sale of our national assets in the first place. Because they would rather enslave the future generation and enrich themselves temporarily as long as they do not live to see the repercussions of their evil actions when nemesis finally catches up in future to wreak havoc on innocent young ones - They are the Biblical typologies of King Hezekiah  who when he was sick towards death prayed that God should lengthen his days and reminded him of his good works (Isaiah 38).

As soon as his days were increased by 15 years he went on a show off spree of all the treasures of his kingdom. According to him "There is nothing among my treasures that I did not show them" (Read: there is nothing that we have that I did not sell). It was at this point that God foretold him that "Behold , the days are coming when all that is in your house and what your fathers have accumulated until this day, shall be carried to Babylon; nothing shall be left"

He told him of how his sons who will descend from him, whom he would beget will be carried off to slavery because of his singular act. And guess what? - the man who did not want to die  and was a recipient of mercy like our leaders today simply said :"The  word  of the Lord which you have spoken is good!", "At least there will be peace and truth in my days". Isaiah 39 vs 8.

It is not different from what we see in Nigeria today and many Africa nations. Old men selling the futures of their youths and enjoying the temporarily luxury of the now;  without strategic planning for their successors and future generations. This to me is the terrible lot that has befallen the Nigerian youths today; It is the terrible lot that has befallen also the African youths today.

Some days ago, the former Governor of Anambra state - Peter Obi on a youth summit set the Internet on fire when he said: "To you young people, Take Back your Country...it is your future they are toying with". "I beg you to participate more in politics, the society we help them abuse today will take its revenge tomorrow". Of course he said a lot, that our typical Hezekiah leaders would never wish to accept.

So as I sit here, I wonder how many of us are ready. How many of us youths have been armed for our responsibilities. As for me, I am. It is time for youths to step up their games. No more playing small. No more looking into the horizon. No more holidaying with immaturity, fear, and the silence of huge consequences. It is time for youths to take over not by words but by actions. Not without respect for elders or violence but by a servitude that says to them “I’ve got your back. Sit back and relax; I’ve got this! ”

@Zestydestiny on Twitter
Please share your thoughts with me. 


Thursday, 4 February 2016

ACHIEVE?...YES, IF YOU TRY.

Today my Landlady's girl was singing a song with words that said "You can achieve what you want if you try". It got me thinking about this profound truth. Its a truth I want to live and its a truth I really live and will continue to live. And even though everyone needs to internalize this message I just want to be a bit biased in singling out the women folk here for this beat. I crave your indulgence.


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Every woman will face a lot on this path called life. Sometimes you will feel disappointed, cheated angry; sometimes you will feel like crying, sometimes you will feel terribly sad and sometimes isolation may come off a better choice than following the crowd. By all means when these emotions come knocking remember that its okay to cry, its okay to feel some blues, its okay to fail, its okay to just be on your own. 


But! The story should always begin again...
You can achieve anything if you try. after the brick wall, you have to find a way. Try again, Try again and again. Don't give up. Keep your femininity. Love yourself. Support yourself. Don't loose hope. Wear your heels the exact size and inch you can muster and stand tall. Stand tall and prove to yourself that you can achieve anything you want. And you definitely will.


Sometimes it may not all come at once. Sometimes it may be only one desire at a time. But if you keep at it. Keep working on them, never giving up you will one day look on and see that you now have most and you will smile.


This is not a message from someone who has it all together nor someone that has achieved all but rather from a fellow pilgrim. And I dare to say it because herein lies the food for pilgrim's progress.

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Saturday, 19 September 2015

WE ALL WANT TO BELONG!


Sitting in front of my television today searching for enlightenment, I happen to stumble upon an Aljazeera documentary titled “EXILE IN NEW CALEDONIA”. It was a part one version of a series of a documentary about some Algerian deportees that were sent to an Island in Caledonia almost 150 years ago, after  haven failed in their year-long resistence to French colonial rule in Algeria, France sent hundreds of Algerians to what was then a penal colony – the island of New Caledonia

 As I watched, they told of their grieves, their pains and the future they never had after their fathers were taken as prisoners and sent to this Island to serve prison sentences.

Since I happened to get on midway, I could barely tell the origin of it or entire information how it all began,  but 3 generations later their children were distraught about the denied future of independence that they had to live. They resented the exile. The lost Identity and the grief of the discrimination meted out to them. The sorrows in the voice of the men and the women were visible as they told of how different their lives would have been. They spoke French and were given French names that they did not like. They believed they were Arabs. The lamentation of the loss of their ethnic identities and the sense of not belonging brought tears to their eyes. They cried. I cried too.
Courtesy: Kaurthoughts.wordpress.com

It was all sad memories and anguish over forlorn hope. There was raw desire in their eyes as they tried to relay the imageries of a land that was told them…These were stories from the descendants of the Algerian deportees. They were a people. They wanted to belong.

It reminded me of Africa. It reminded me of the slave trade.  It reminded me of all the wrongs that happened during that era. How the strong descendants of Africa were taken away. I reminisced about America. The black Americans and the shared grieve of these people in understanding and upholding their identities.  The circumstances perhaps were different; they were free men taken captive and forced into slavery. Yet, in the center of it all there exists the need for identity. The need to understand their root till this day.

The thought brought me to the march on Washington August 28, 1963 at the capitol hills of the United States of America where Rev. Martin Luther king gave the speech that will forever be in history:  “I Have a Dream…”.  A speech, that tells of a people who wanted to be free.

As humans, we want to love and be loved. We want to be accepted. We want to know that we are free. We want to be seen as individuals with rights to be and to express our humanity.From the streets to the apex of the corporate world...

…We all want to belong.

Tuesday, 1 September 2015

DO YOU HAVE WHAT IT TAKES TO BE PROMOTED?

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This is the month that you ought to grow up!
Do you have a 'mission'?
Can you 'manage' the process?
Remember that God is not going to feed your insecurity by giving you Validation that has no mission.
Do you have the character? Can God trust your character for the position that you seek?
Why do you want to get to that position?
Are you driven by ego?
What is your mission?
Realize that until you are mission driven, resources will be denied and anything you want that does not have a mission will end up abused!
Job, marriage, relationships,life...
Before you can praise God when you are on top you have to show God you can praise him in the 'pit'. There are many values you have to learn in the pit that you will need in the 'palace'.
Courtesy: www.healthpromotionjournal.com

You are not fit to be blessed if you can not manage the process...the pain of it, the stress of it, the emotion of it, the fear of it,the negative voices in your head, the days of waiting,
Start looking at the mission and not the process nor the position.
God chose you to be a representative. You are on a mission.
Happy new month people.


@Zestydestiny on twitter
(Inspired by Bishop TD Jakes)

Thursday, 9 July 2015

I'M BLOGGING A THANK YOU!

Let me use this medium to say a big thank you to my darling brother and creative.

Every time I am asked to do an assignment in school (since I started taking classes recently), he is the first person I think about and bother him to no end.

Courtesy:Obiakoeze Onyeka Josh
Recently, we have been planning campaigns (advertisements) and he has given me lots of bragging rights(I'm laughing out loud and flexing my muscle). I really get to show how my campaigns could look on the billboards on the street (take a look at these cute pictures and see). This is just a sneak peek at the numerous stuffs he helps me out with.
Courtesy: Obiakoeze onyeka Joshua
Courtesy:Obiakoeze Onyeka josh

I feel blessed. Thank you dear Obiakoeze Onyeka Josh. God bless you!

Friday, 26 June 2015

SIX WAYS TO FAST TRACK ON TIME MANAGEMENT

Image by Destiny Obiakoeze

Running behind time is soooooooo easy.

One minute you have all the time in the world and the next you realize you barely have an hour or more to the moment you have been waiting for.

It’s kind of frustrating to be late or not meet up. Especially, when it’s something very important. On top of that, imagine knowing that you are going to be late on your project or even a presentation. That would be some hell of a big deal. Add to that the fact that a lot of people do not take it lightly to let you be the deciding factor on time, more so at those vital big budget projects or executive meetings and you have a picture in your mind’s eye that brings a scowl on your face. Now imagine if that were a reality. Of course that will be way below par with the picture you would love.

There is something about poor time management that rubs us all the wrong way. For one, it makes you feel like a looser. I have not yet met anyone who is comfortable to know that they are turning up late at an extremely important schedule that does not feel horrible. In fact, in most cases, ‘horrible’ will be an understatement.
So how about we discuss s how to manage your time better?
Here we go. Let us find out some ways to meet up with your time:

Have a draft:
What do you want to do? Sit down and start drafting. Have an outline that guides you. Summarize in a small short form the structure of what you wish to do. If you itemize them like this, it will make it easier for you to highlight fully or expatiate later.  Usually it is a way of trying to get you and your mind to start working. Instead of just living in your imagination, by doing a short draft you have successfully moved your Project into reality. You must note that this is different from having an action plan.


Have an action plan:
 Use a calendar to plan a chart. What do you want to do at a specific point and when. State how long it should last and allot a time frame on it. This will guide you towards how and when each target should be implemented. I personally use this a lot and it helps me a great deal. You might prefer to use a post it. They are very colourful. Colours have a way of calling your attention. Especially, when they contrast perfectly from the background. Strategically place it at a place you will always look or go to: In front of your computer or laptop; on your fridge; on your bathroom door or door to your loo (That is if you live alone. Of course you do know it will be crazy to plaster everyone’s faces with your activity right?).


Keep a reminder:
Use your phone. It is called a mobile phone and usually you take it everywhere you go. I love it when my phone beeps to remind me about something I need to do in the next few minutes, next hour or so depending on how I set it up. I would recommend that you give yourself at least thirty minutes ahead of each agenda so that you have more time. Also, depending on where you will be at a certain point in time you should be able to assess whether your time could be extended further to accommodate a preparation. For instance if what you need to do demands that you get home to pick up something or change gears, you should set your alert for perhaps an hour to give you enough room to do just that. It is a great asset for the work of an assistant and you do not have to pay an assistant’s salary at all. Just log into the calendar your reminder for when you want the alert and the rest is history.


Be disciplined:
It’s important that you understand how needful it should be that you be disciplined. Take for instance the scenario that your phone starts beeping; you take a look at it, read what its saying and stick it back into your pocket without doing anything about it. Of course that would mean that you are not disciplined enough to be committed to your own success. So yes, you must be disciplined to ensure you work according to plan and push yourself to follow through with what is necessary.


Find the time you work best:
 If you are wondering how this can impact on your time management, consider the fact that you do more work at those times that you find it easier and motivated enough to put in some work. For instance if you prefer a serene atmosphere and find it more pleasurable to work at night without much disturbances and distractions, you will notice that the energy to do more at those times means that you get more done. So reiteratively, the outcome is that whenever you work at night you turnover more; than during the day. Maybe you might have a pile of work that ends up disappearing after you put in a decent duration of night time. By all means use that knowledge to your advantage and leverage on it. Finding the time you work best and leveraging on it will save you tons of hours. By the time you quantify the hours you have saved for yourself you will realize how far you have come with effective time management. Clap for yourself later (don’t forget me too…now am smiling).


Check up on yourself:
Implementing all of the above requires that you keep an eye on yourself at every stage. What you feel are as important. The negative emotions you feel when you fail or the positive emotions you feel when you are succeeding are equally as important on this checker. Your emotion towards your progress will be your touchstone every time you accomplish something in a timely manner. Often, you will feel empowered and happier knowing you succeeded. Keep in touch by rewarding yourself at the end of every completed goal or achievement you are committed to. Keeping in touch with yourself is a great way of keeping the motivation up. Aside from that, the quick deliveries on your time line will add some zest to your purposeful living. Need I say you will be living your own ideal?...*wink*.

You want to be that person who has everything planned accordingly and implemented successfully and on time. I trust that this will go a long way to making you that person. Obviously this list is not an exhaustive one. Feel free to share your insights too. Good luck on becoming that pro with time management


NB: This post is originally written for Projectsxtra.com and published on Linkedin. Take a look.